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Re: tone policing

Ted Lemon <mellon@fugue.com> Mon, 09 September 2019 17:58 UTC

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From: Ted Lemon <mellon@fugue.com>
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Subject: Re: tone policing
Date: Mon, 09 Sep 2019 13:58:12 -0400
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On Sep 9, 2019, at 1:42 PM, Keith Moore <moore@network-heretics.com> wrote:
> False assumption.   Every minute I spend on this conversation is time I can't bill clients for, and I have a backlog of work.    I wouldn't be investing this effort if I didn't think it were important.

This is what “has free time” means, Keith.   You are objectively consuming more of our bandwidth than any other participant.  This is not ad hominem.  You can see it in Thomas Narten’s weekly summaries.

> You could do your part to reduce the noise by not sending insulting messages, which generally merit face-saving responses.

Isn’t this precisely the sort of statement to which the phrase “tone policing” is referring?

It might be instructive for you to consider just what it was that I said that was insulting.   AFAIK I just pointed out that you are using a perfectly valid tactic for trying to make yourself heard above those with whom you disagree.  And I said that I’d like a way to neutralize that tactic, because to me it not only seems unfair, but is, objectively, burdensome.   Was the content of what I said wrong, or just the tone?   If it was the tone, can you explain what was wrong about the tone?

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