Re: Bad/Good ideas and damage control by experienced participants
Dan Harkins <dharkins@lounge.org> Wed, 15 June 2022 19:52 UTC
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From: Dan Harkins <dharkins@lounge.org>
Subject: Re: Bad/Good ideas and damage control by experienced participants
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On 6/15/22 5:37 AM, Nick Hilliard wrote: > Brian E Carpenter wrote on 14/06/2022 23:37: >> On 15-Jun-22 02:47, John Levine wrote: >>> It appears that Miles Fidelman <mfidelman@meetinghouse.net> said: >>>> On the other hand, is it really a negative when someone is snarky >>>> with a >>>> snot-nosed kid who doesn't appreciate being told that their "great new >>>> idea" is a retread of something folks learned not to do decades ago? >>> >>> Depends. If your goal is to make sure nobody new ever comes to the >>> IETF, sure, do that. >>> >>> On the other hand, if someone new goes to the effort to write up an >>> I-D and ask us >>> to look at it, there are a lot better ways to see if you can >>> redirect their interest >>> to something that might be useful. Sometimes they may go off in a >>> sulk, but sometimes >>> a little politeness and specific references to prior work they >>> should read about can >>> go a long way. >> >> I think it is also a very effective sieve. Newcomers who respond >> positively >> to this are much more likely to become genuine contributors than people >> who won't listen and learn. The ones who don't listen are unlikely to >> succeed anyway. > > Brian, John, > > thank you for speaking up for the values of courtesy and politeness. > > The freedom to be "snarky with a snot-nosed kid" also includes the > freedom not to be snarky Yes, of course it does. But that works both ways. The freedom to take personal offense at criticism of one's ideas includes the freedom to not take personal offense at criticism of one's ideas. So instead of walking away upset at "pissy greybeards" who didn't like an idea consider that maybe, just maybe, they had a point even if it was articulated in a terse manner that you're not used to hearing from your university advisor. So instead of trying to define (and curtail) "rudeness", why don't we try some real tolerance all around: don't assume the worst in others and give people a break when you encounter some behavior that irks you. Dan. -- "The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." -- Marcus Aurelius
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