Re: Harassment, abuse, accountability. and IETF mailing lists
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Subject: Re: Harassment, abuse, accountability. and IETF mailing lists
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To: Jay Daley <exec-director@ietf.org>
Cc: John C Klensin <john-ietf@jck.com>, Brian E Carpenter <brian.e.carpenter@gmail.com>, ietf@ietf.org
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On 6/9/22 10:52, Jay Daley wrote: >> Some people take any kind of criticism of what they think is important, as rudeness. >> >> And some people will use any tactic to shoot down a person or an idea that they don't like, including accusing the person advocating that idea of rudeness. > Both true but both much, much rarer than people responding to genuine rudeness. When you say "genuine rudeness", I can't tell what you mean. I don't even know how a person can decide whether something is "genuine rudeness" without making some (likely unwarranted) assumptions about their intent. And that by itself should be a red flag. >> It's not that people can never be rude (they can), or that rudeness is a good thing (it's not). But much of what people call rudeness is subjective and arbitrary. If people can be shut down for rudeness, that inherently stifles a robust dialog aimed at discovering technical truth. > The counterpoint to that is "If people are not shut down for rudeness, that inherently stifles an open dialog …" Except that that's not true, or even defensible. If anything it's the opposite of the truth. The inherent problem is that "rudeness" can be, in practice, basically just being unconventional in any way. Often people can't even explain why they think something is "rude". But while some human conventions are good, many human conventions are harmful, and many conventions are also specific to particular situations. As an example, one human convention is to not challenge (formal or informal) power structures, and/or to not challenge high-status individuals, even by calling them on incorrect statements or reasoning, or misuses of their privilege. This convention doesn't serve IETF's purpose at all, and I would argue that it's a destructive convention for humanity in general. This problem has been recognized, in some circles, for thousands of years, and sometimes measures have been taken to try to defeat that convention. It's why kings sometimes had "fools" to advise them - even if those fools sometimes lost their heads (literally) for doing their jobs. It's also why IETF has traditionally shunned some of the trappings of "professionalism", such as by not expecting professional attire. It's also why, at the Memphis IETF held at the Peabody Hotel, IESG put on duck bills and walked down the duck-guano stained red carpet to the weekly open plenary meeting. It's impossible to speak truth to power without being seen as rude. It's almost impossible to change society for the better without being rude. And if we in IETF are no longer trying to make the world a better place, we should disband. >> And that's why vague rules against rudeness are toxic to a consensus-making organization. > " … And that’s why no rules against rudeness are toxic to a consensus-making organization." > > Are we therefore agreed that both "no rules" and "vague rules" are bad, or did you mean that rudeness is too subjective to be defined in a non-vague way? I mean something closer to the latter. "rudeness" by itself is not a valid reason for shutting someone down or suppressing their speech. If there's real harm being done by said person or speech, either there's a more specific reason than "rudeness" that should be identified, or the accusation itself should be called into question. I do think that there can be specific rules against violating specific conventions, without impairing open dialog too much. Every deliberative body needs rules for decorum. But making the rules specific means that they can be examined and debated as to whether those rules are beneficial for IETF's mission. Keeping the rules vague means that they can continue to be used to suppress individuals and ideas for arbitrary reasons. Keith
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