Re: [Recentattendees] IETF 100, Singapore -- proposed path forward and request for input

[JORDI PALET MARTINEZ <[e-mail]>]

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Thanks for this message, I think is the best way to express the situation amd why someone could read part of the discussion as lack of empathy, etc.

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De: ietf <[e-mail]> en nombre de Ted Lemon <[e-mail]>
Responder a: <[e-mail]>
Fecha: miércoles, 25 de mayo de 2016, 16:34
Para: Patrick McManus <[e-mail]>
CC: Margaret Cullen <[e-mail]>, IETF Discussion Mailing List <[e-mail]>
Asunto: Re: [Recentattendees] IETF 100, Singapore -- proposed path forward and request for input

>On Wed, May 25, 2016 at 10:08 AM, Patrick McManus <[e-mail]> wrote:
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>On Tue, May 24, 2016 at 6:56 PM, Margaret Cullen <[e-mail]> wrote:
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>I am fairly disturbed with where this discussion has ended up
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>Me too. A little empathy could go a long way here (as in so many things). That's a property of good leadership.
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>I think it's really important to understand that a desire to get clarity does not indicate a lack of empathy.   It's also important to understand that empathy isn't something that some people deserve and others don't.   The fact that person A has a worse problem than the problem person B has does not mean that person B's problem doesn't matter.   And indeed even the act of trying to make such a comparison is incredibly fraught.   As I said earlier, it's very difficult to discuss this because it's difficult to avoid making it sound like we have no empathy for person A when we talk about person B's problem.   But it is not fair to ignore person B's problem just because person A's problem is worse, particularly because what "worse" means is very subjective.
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>For someone who has been discriminated against and marginalized their whole life, a discussion of the practical effects of a particular example of that marginalization, and how that particular example compares to the less-pervasive marginalization that someone else is experiencing which happens in a particular instance to be just as serious, may indeed feel non-empathic.
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>However, I think that on a practical level the only problems that we, the IETF, can address in this context are specific practical problems.   We, the IETF, cannot directly address the pervasive discrimination and marginalization, much as we wish to do so.   Nor need we--these problems are being addressed on a social level, and many of us participate in trying to address them on that level.   It is no accident that things have changed for the better, nor is it the case that we are done.   The IETF is no more capable of getting Singapore to change its laws with respect to same-sex relations than we are capable of getting the U.S. to be less unpleasant to visitors from disfavored countries, or for example to protect travelers unknowingly carrying prescription asthma medication, Adderall or Ritalin into Japan.
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>That is why I at least have chosen to focus on the practical.   It is not a lack of empathy.
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